Please always research BDSM scenes and kink play safety tips thoroughly before engaging in an act. Never practice BDSM under the influence of drugs or alcohol. Always check in with your partner(s) and take all safety precautions beforehand such as keeping safety scissors on hand, a fire extinguisher, or a spotter depending on the scene. Obtain and maintain consent with your partner(s) and establish a safe word for any BDSM scene.

Kink and BDSM is a vast world with many styles and scenes to explore. It can be overwhelming to figure out how to start or if it’s for you. If you have an interest in BDSM, a good place to start is light restraint play. Starting out with a blindfold and/or a pair of handcuffs or rope is a common place to begin. As you play, you may wish to incorporate other aspects such as spanking or sensory play. While we can’t explain it all here, Love Shop provides lots of information and a beginner’s guide to Kink and BDSM here.

Talking about BDSM with a partner can be a sensitive and potentially awkward conversation. It's important to approach the topic respectfully, and to make sure that both partners are comfortable and consensual throughout the discussion. Here are some steps you can take to have this conversation with your partner:

• Start by explaining what BDSM is and what it means to you. You can give your partner some information about the different activities and practices involved in BDSM, and talk about why you're interested in exploring it.
• Share your fantasies and desires. Talk about the specific activities and scenarios that you're interested in trying, and explain why they appeal to you. Be open and honest about your feelings, and try to avoid judging or criticizing your partner's reactions.
• Ask your partner for their thoughts and feelings. Encourage them to be honest and open with you, and listen carefully to what they have to say. If they're not interested in BDSM, try to understand their perspective and respect their decision. If they're open to the idea, ask them what they're comfortable with and what they're not.
• Discuss boundaries and safety. It's important to establish clear boundaries and communicate openly about what is and is not acceptable in a BDSM context. Talk about safe words and other safety measures, and make sure that both partners understand and agree to them.
• Plan your first BDSM experience together once you and your partner have discussed and agreed on the details. Make sure that both partners are comfortable and fully consensual throughout the experience, and be open to feedback and adjustments as you go.
• Remember, communication is key in any BDSM scene. It's important to keep the lines of communication open and to always respect each other's boundaries and limits.